Girl Talk 1: Place Your Crown Queen

Girl Talk 1: Place Your Crown Queen 
BY: Kyler Stubblefield

This “Girl Talk” will touch base on the subject self-motivation. Many woman can agree that keeping perfect sanity is quite difficult, but following these simple steps (knowing your worth, finding a hobby, etc.) anyone can achieve true prosperity.

Many women can agree that finding perfect sanity is probably the most difficult task we face other than putting on eyelashes. With our emotions constantly changing, we find ourselves almost always caught up in some type of chaos. And even if everything has gone smoothly for the most part, we still have something come along to set us off. We can't help it, it's just how we operate. There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for yourself, in fact, self-love is the best love you'll ever find. The goal of this Girl Talk is to provide you beautiful queens with tips on how to keep your crown intact.

Know Your Worth

Who knows you better than yourself? It seems like an easy question to answer, but as easy as it seems many women struggle with this step. You have the power to control how others treat you. What you accept or allow is what will pass and what you deny or reject is what will refrain. Know where you come from and see where you want to be. Understand that if it doesn't help you climb to your destination it will only keep you stagnant. What do you deserve? What keeps you happy? Answering these simple questions is only the start of acknowledging self-worth.The word "worth" is defined as the following: the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration; the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated. “Knowing your worth is one of the most important things to possess in life. When you believe in yourself and fully know your worth, the little things won't get to you” (Brittany Ambrosino). Answering the previous questions and understand clearly what the definition of "worth" means, completes the first step you'll take to keep your crown placed on your head.

Less Tears, More Cheers

It is true that women are emotional beings. We live life off of feelings. It is in our nature to react more overly dramatic than males. But does that mean we have to live our lives in a depressing bubble? The answer to that is definitely no. To live a life full of joy and prosperity calls for you to let go of those bags. From the words of Erykah Badu, "Bag lady you gon’ hurt your back- I guess nobody ever told you- all you must hold onto- is you." Carrying the bags of anxiety, distrust, insecurities, or anything else that takes your focus away from the best things in life are the bags Erykah is exemplifying. An easy way to let go of things is to simply write out all of your frustrations. After writing everything down, simply dispose of the paper. Writing your frustration down shows that you acknowledge what is bothering you, and disposing of the paper afterward illustrates you letting it all go. Remember, "Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness (Oprah Winfrey)."

Find A Hobby

Having a hobby keeps your mind focused on something that fits your interest. Hobbies work as distractions. They allow us to expand our minds and creativity while blocking out what exactly is happening around us. Most people love to read while others love to paint. You don’t have to be an artist to have a hobby, it could be as simple as completing a crossword puzzle. Finding a hobby that fits your personality is the best way to level out your daily stress. “These activities are more than merely distracting. They remind you that that are many facets to your self-concept” (Jaime Kurtz). Engaging in positive activity leads to a positive outcome. One way to find a perfect hobby for yourself is to decipher what sparks your interest. If you are having troubles finding that answer, try testing out your possibilities until you find the best fit. 

Bringing It All Together 

The goal of this “Girl Talk” was to provide all women with tips to ensure self-love, encouragement, and minds focused on positive activities. Through following these tips, anyone can find themselves in perfect sanity. Every woman is a queen in their own special way. But do note to keep your crown intact you must first acknowledge you worth, let go of negativity, refocus on something positive, and lastly place your crown.